That is SOOOO exciting! Sooo happy for you!!! 😀
Some advice and thoughts from a dear, wise Grandma person I love very much:
1. Enjoy EVERY moment with baby. A moment is here for a blink, then gone FOREVER, never to come back. You’ll never be able to go back and recapture lost time. Use every precious second of it.
2. Every moment away from baby is time away from heaven.
3. Eat only the purest natural organic foods while pregnant (and after! : ) so that baby might have fewer allergies and colic. A happy contented baby is easier than a crying colicky baby.
4. Use a natural baby carrier that holds baby close to Mom or Dad. That’s where baby belongs – right next to the heart of a loved one. One day, when baby is grown, he or she will walk out the door, and you’ll have wished you held them more. Much much more.
5. Let potty training happen in it’s time. Just remember – they won’t be wearing diapers to college. 😀
6. Let your “No” be “No.” Ever gentle, ever firm and resolute. You won’t ever have to struggle once baby knows and respects your “Word.”
When Baby is ready for discipline… (when baby has learned to walk : )…
Time to teach “No.” Baby will resist. Tell baby “no” once again, looking kindly but firm. When baby doesn’t listen, tell baby, “timeout” so baby knows the word for takeaway, and then take baby to crib or playpen, AWAY from the rest of the family for just a few minutes. Baby will learn that No means no, and that if they don’t listen, they will be isolated. Short isolation is painless, but uncomfortable for baby. Baby ALWAYS wants to be near those whom they love. : )
Baby will need several lessons ever so often to be reminded that you mean what you say. Sometimes, baby will test you and try to do wrong over and over, perhaps many times. Just isolate baby as many times as needed, lengthening the time for a bit for periods up to 5 minutes. (An eternity for baby)
Keep doing this even if baby thinks this is a game. Remember – it won’t take more than 20 times! If you do this, baby will give up after a while (it’s not a fun game after all) and then, like a wonderful miracle, baby will respect your Word even after just ONE “NO.”
It’s the kindest, best trick for babies – and good for Pets, in fact all animals, too! 😀
No matter how tired you are, teaching baby to respect “No” will make your life INFINITELY easier as the years go by. It lasts beyond the teen years.
Infinite Patience and Love…. and Word respected.
7. First time Brothers and Sisters…
Tell brothers and sisters that THEY are going to have THEIR brother or sister. It’s… theirs! Tell them how much baby will love them like no other, and how wonderful it’s going to be to have someone who loves them so much. It will be their, playmate, their new family member who will love them forever if they’re kind and good to them.
8. Feed baby (and whole family!) as much organic food as possible. The less pesticides, herbicides and chemicals, the better! And more tasty, too : ) There’s so much contamination these days. The purer, healthier the food, the better! No processed food. 😀 Buy from local farmers. Encourage local farmers! Support them. Those who don’t use chemicals work SO much harder. Be sure to buy humane, organic meat, too if you can! 😀
9. The best way to teach baby (now older!) to not crave treats and candy, is to use a little trick. When they want candy, say Reese’s Peanut butter cups, buy 12! After dinner, let them eat as many as they want. After a few times of this with different candies, their bodies will NOT want it so much. After getting a bit sick after a bit too much candy, the deliciousness wears off. Of course, always talk to your doctor about this and everything you do – this advice is just smart grandma stuff , not medical stuff. 😀
10. One of the best things to teach baby ( all children, actually : ) is that the greatest gift of all, is the gift of being ABLE to GIVE, and then giving. Receiving is WONDERFUL – but giving regularly, doing wonderful things for others, is even better in the long run. Why? Because people, living creatures, are designed to give.
They are happiest when they do! Loving, giving, sharing, laughing together with friends and family – nothing could be better than that! 😀
PS: And from me and Cdin – teach children how to be infinitely kind to ALL animals. Animals DO feel. Even older lobsters lead younger lobsters around by the claw to guide them. Even lobsters have feelings. 😀
So much here – so sorry for overdoing! But had to share because I think Grandma has some good thinking, i think 😀